Learn virtue, not happiness. Seneca, Epistles 4.36.2-3

Seneca urges Lucilius not to care whether the populace, or the fast set of up-and-comers in imperial society, approves his character. Studying philosophy is about developing virtue, which is not something we can do by appealing to the emotions of strangers.


At bene aliquis illam fert. Sic, quomodo vinum. Itaque non est quod tibi isti persuadeant eum esse felicem qui a multis obsidetur: sic ad illum quemadmodum ad lacum concurritur, quem exhauriunt et turbant. Nugatorium et inertem vocant. Scis quosdam perverse loqui et significare contraria. Felicem vocabant: quid ergo? erat? Ne illud quidem curo, quod quibusdam nimis horridi animi videtur et tetrici. Ariston aiebat malle se adulescentem tristem quam hilarem et amabilem turbae; vinum enim bonum fieri quod recens durum et asperum visum est; non pati aetatem quod in dolio placuit. Sine eum tristem appellent et inimicum processibus suis: bene se dabit in vetustate ipsa tristitia, perseveret modo colere virtutem, perbibere liberalia studia, non illa quibus perfundi satis est, sed haec quibus tingendus est animus.


But someone is certainly enjoying happiness.” Yes, the same way folk enjoy wine. It is not the place of such people to persuade you that being besieged by a crowd makes us happy. Parties descend on happy people like tourists rushing upon a lake, whose waters they suck and muck. “People call me a useless party-pooper if I refuse to go along.” You already know that certain folk are perverse, and indicate the opposite of whatever it is they say. They once called you happy, remember? Were you? I wouldn't care at all about such people seeing something savage and fierce in the cast of my mind. Ariston (†) used to say that he preferred a sad young man to one merry and close with the mob. That a good wine was one that seemed harsh and bitter when first bottled. That our life will not suffer whatever it is that has pleased us in our cups. Let the mobs call this philosopher sad, an enemy to his own enjoyment. They will give themselves a miserable old age, while he just goes on cultivating his virtue, drinking as deep as he can from the well of liberal studies: not the kind of studies it is enough merely to have tasted, but those that profoundly imbue the texture of your mind.


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() Ariston of Chios was a pupil of Stoic Zeno. His approach to the teaching of the master was too skeptical for others (including Chrysippus, who inherited Zeno's role in the Stoa).